Ray has a high school friend who emails occasionally to share news and to check up on us. Because this high school friend is not one of the guys, but one of the girls, he forwards them to me.
One day recently I texted back and forth with a friend who occasionally does tech work for Notgrass History. We took care of business, while also chatting about how he and his wife were doing and Ray’s and my plans for the weekend. A little while later, I shared the texts with Ray. One, I know Ray would want to know how they’re doing. Two, it just felt right.
Transparency is important in relationships — especially family relationships — Daddy, Mama, sons, daughters, in-laws, children — everyone and for always. We just shouldn’t be doing anything that would cause another family member pain. That transparency is crucial in a marriage.
Ray checks my text messages for me and I check his for him. When one of us is driving, the other one carries on text conversations for the driver. We have nothing to hide.
It is God’s intention that husbands and wives be one. It’s not healthy to hide things from yourself, so it’s not healthy for husbands and wives to hide things from each other. So . . . if your windshield is foggy, turn on the defrost. If your window is spotty, pull out the Windex® — or rather your healthy home alternative — like vinegar, if you’re at my house.
His and Hers are okay for pillow cases, bathrobes, and towels — but not for important things in a marriage — and an important thing is anything either of you thinks is important.
The heart of her husband trusts in her.