Paragraphs of Gratitude
When we wrote out our list of homeschooling objectives back in 1994, the first five were:
- Be faithful to Jesus.
- Care about others and show it in concrete ways.
- Be responsible adults.
- Love the church and build it up.
- Have good etiquette and manners.
Manners are an important part of that second objective of caring about others and showing it in concrete ways. Many parents start early teaching their children to say please and thank you. Learning to use those three words is an essential part of training children. Along with training children to say those words, we have the additional opportunity to train their hearts. The best “pleases” come from humble hearts. The best “thank yous” come from grateful ones.
As our children mature, their thank yous can expand into paragraphs of gratitude. The two words “thank you” are appropriate when a stranger hands me something I have dropped, but, even then, it is sometimes even more appropriate to expand our response to, “Thank you, kind sir,” or “Thank you, ma’am. I appreciate that so much.” I love the line in The Andy Griffith Show when Malcolm Merriweather, the tourist from England says, “Aren’t you kind! Aren’t you kind!”
Some deeds of kindness merit even more than a “Thank you, kind sir.” Sometimes a more appropriate response to a gift of time or effort or of an object is a paragraph of gratitude. Thoughtful, multi-sentence thank you notes are good practice for expressing paragraphs of gratitude. Face-to-face conversations are, too.
Counting our blessings can prompt paragraphs of gratitude both to people we see day in and day out and to the Creator of the universe. The psalms aren’t paragraphs. They are poems, but reading those poems can inspire us to express our own paragraphs of gratitude. The psalm most associated with Thanksgiving Day is Psalm 100. The writer of this psalm could have ignored what God had done and not said thank you at all. Or he could have said simply, “Thank you.” He chose instead to express many words of gratitude:
Shout joyfully to the Lord, all the earth.
Serve the Lord with gladness;
Come before Him with joyful singing.
Know that the Lord Himself is God;
It is He who has made us, and not we ourselves;
We are His people and the sheep of His pasture.
Enter His gates with thanksgiving
And His courts with praise.
Give thanks to Him, bless His name.
For the Lord is good;
His lovingkindness is everlasting
And His faithfulness to all generations.