At the Mercy of Their Wives

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Many months ago I had a phone conversation with a homeschooling mother I have never met. One sentence she said in our conversation has stayed with me. We were discussing homeschooled children homeschooling their own children someday. She said, “I have three sons and I know they are at the mercy of their wives.”

I have thought often since then about the power of women in the lives of their husbands and children. When I worked on the lesson about King David and his son King Solomon for our new world history curriculum, I thought of it again. We wives can do lots of good; we can do lots of harm, too.

The wisdom that God gave Solomon is well known.

Now God gave Solomon wisdom and very great discernment and breadth of mind,
like the sand that is on the seashore.
1 Kings 4:29

Men came from all peoples to hear the wisdom of Solomon,
from all the kings of the earth who had heard of his wisdom.
1 Kings 4:34

However, we also know that Solomon had some wisdom before God gave him a special gift of wisdom. Solomon had the wisdom to ask for it. At the beginning of his reign, Solomon understood that he was moving into a position of great responsibility and that it would take wisdom to do the job well. He prayed:

So give Your servant an understanding heart to judge Your people
to discern between good and evil.
For who is able to judge this great people of Yours?”
I Kings 3:9

God was pleased.

It was pleasing in the sight of the Lord that Solomon had asked this thing.
I Kings 3:9-10

Solomon spoke 3000 proverbs. Many are recorded in the book of Proverbs.

Fall Morning 031The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life,
And he who is wise wins souls.
Proverbs 11:30

Mockingbird, ducks and Monte 003Like a bird that wanders from her nest,
So is a man who wanders from his home.
Proverbs 27:8

Snowy Morning 134The highway of the upright is to depart from evil;
He who watches his way preserves his life.
Proverbs 16:17

Solomon’s father had been a man after God’s own heart. God had given Solomon an understanding heart to be able “to discern between good and evil.” And yet . . .

. . . when Solomon was old, his wives turned his heart away after other gods;
and his heart was not wholly devoted to the Lord his God,
as the heart of David his father had been.
1 Kings 11:4

Reading that verse pains my heart. What? Can it be true? Solomon was a faithful young man and an unfaithful old man. Why? The wives of this wise, wise man led him far, far away from God. Solomon was responsible and he should have stood firm, but he did not. Again, we wives can do lots of good; we can do lots of harm, too.

Let’s do our job well and train our daughters to do the same.

The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
Proverbs 31:11-12

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  1. The wise woman builds her house,
    But the foolish tears it down with her own hands. ~ Proverbs 14:1

    It’s incredible that Solomon said these words and knew the influence women could have on men — even the parallel between the seductive woman and the road to death. Just goes to show that we need to rest on God’s wisdom and not lean on our own understanding. Strive to not be wise in our own eyes. All these are proverbs attributed to Solomon, but ultimately coming from God. To God be the glory. Thank you Mrs. Notgrass for this wonderful encouragement and reminder.

  2. So sobering, and so true. We as moms have a great responsibility to not only train up our daughters to be godly influences, but also train our sons to choose their wives wisely. I am delighted that Solomon’s life is part of your world history curriculum. If I may ask, what years in history will this curriculum cover?

    • So true, Betsy.

      In answer to your question, the first unit of the curriculum is the week of Creation and we plan to go all the way to the present. As with America the Beautiful, we plan to include five types of lessons, with one of each type in each of the 30 units. These types are: Our World Story, World Biography, Daily Life, World Landmark, and God’s Wonder. So, for the first unit, we have these lessons:

      Our World Story: The First Week of History
      World Biography: Our Father God Who Is In Heaven
      World Landmark: The Garden of Eden
      Daily Life: The First People on Earth
      God’s Wonders: The Amazing World God Made

      I am, as we say in our family, “jumping up and down” excited about it. Here’s the line-up for the unit that includes Solomon:

      Our World Story: God’s Chosen People Israel Ask for a King
      World Biography: Kings David and Solomon of the United Kingdom
      God’s Wonder: God Created the Mediterranean Sea
      Daily Life: The Kingdom of Carthage in North Africa
      World Landmark: Olympia, Home of the First Olympic Games

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